Last Look: Ever After
Kate & Nick Harmer
Married on November 6, 2010, at Sodo Park and featured in our Summer/Fall 2011 issue
She’s the founder and creative director at Hum Creative; he’s the bass player in Death Cab for Cutie
We live in the University District.
Our first year of marriage was all about focusing on our careers, so we really had to support each other.
When we need a break we walk our two dogs at Magnuson Park on Saturday mornings—it’s the happiest place on earth.
How marriage compares to dating and engagement We feel the strength and weight of marriage mostly when we argue—we’re more gentle and protective of each other now. There’s a real sense of forever, in the best possible way.
The most salient memories of the wedding are the few moments we spent alone together after we said our vows. We were both so stoked to be married and incredibly optimistic about life in that moment. If we could do it again we’d care less about appearances overall. Every detail seemed so important at the time, but all that stress didn’t matter as much as all the love. We’d also plan more time to try to talk to everyone!
We spend anniversaries relaxing at the Salish Lodge, where Nick proposed. We turn off our phones, get a massage, and eat an awesome dinner. It has snowed every year we’ve been.
Liza Keckler & Mike Min
Married on June 6, 2009, at Olympic Sculpture Park and featured in our Winter/Spring 2010 issue
She’s head of development at Screaming Flea Productions; he makes portfolio management tools and services at Rally Software
We live on Capitol Hill.
Our first year of marriage was pretty bumpy. Mike’s brother-in-law passed away suddenly and Liza’s dad also passed after a long battle with cancer on the day after our first anniversary. But we weathered it all solidly. We have a way of communicating and talking through issues honestly without things turning into a fight. It works for us.
How marriage compares to dating and engagement Once our daughter started talking and calling us “mom” and “dad,” we really began to feel like a family. The shift is about maturing out of the selfishness of what we each want and need, into the more group-minded benefits of what our collective unit needs.
When we look back on the wedding we are touched that people came such long distances to celebrate with us. We still hear people say it was a blast for them as well, and that makes us happy.
This year’s anniversary present is an espresso machine.
Justine & Kurt Nickle
Married on September 13, 2008, at St. Paul’s Cathedral in Port Gamble and featured in our Summer/Fall 2009 issue
She’s a sales associate at Fox’s Gem Shop; he’s a senior quality engineer at Korry Electronics
We live in Edmonds.
Our first year of marriage was spent remodeling our house. We got a lot of practice on compromise while trying to blend frilly and feminine with simple and masculine.
How marriage compares to dating and engagement Being married feels like having a safety net; emotionally, financially, and even physically. We have two children now, and when one of us needs a break, the other is there to take over. And nothing makes you feel more like a grown-up than staying up late on Christmas Eve putting toys together while your children sleep.
Our richest memories of the wedding are walking through the church and the tent before the guests arrived, and thinking how beautiful everything was. And the ferry ride home at the end of the night was so fun. It ended up feeling like a party since only our favorite people had lasted until the end and were on that boat with us.
Our best anniversary so far was our fifth, on Kauai. We were 12 weeks pregnant with our second child so we luxuriated in all of the freedom that we knew we wouldn’t have again for a while.